If you have followed my Instagram from its early days as ‘Diaryofanewbieteacher’, you would have seen me move from coastal Newcastle to rural Griffith to the big smoke in London and recently interstate to Melbourne. Not surprisingly, those aren’t the only big moves I’ve done before to new areas. So, it’s safe to say, I know a fair bit about moving and setting up my life in new areas, whether I have known some, many or no people there. If you are thinking about, planning to or already have moved to a completely new area, have a look at some tips for making a big move:
You can make friends anywhere
Loneliness is probably the biggest fear stopping many people from moving to somewhere new. Every big move I mentioned earlier was done alone and at most I knew a few people at each place. When setting up all the big things like housing, jobs, banks, etc, you will inevitably get lonely because there is very little time to socialise. However, when you’re settled there are so many ways to meet new people. I’ve joined Facebook groups such as ‘Girlcrew (city name)’ and other ‘New to (city name)’ groups by having a little late-night search. If you don’t want to organise your own thing, there are events set up in these groups or using apps like ‘Meetup’. If you move through an agency or organisation you should ask about social functions. These are a great way to meet people doing exactly the same thing as you. There are so many people in the same boat and all it takes is a little courage to attend any of the events and say hi.
Reach out to the people you do know
If you do know someone, distantly or not, in your new area send them a message. If they’re settled they would at least be willing to give you some tips of places to check out if not invite you along to social events. You never know, they could become some of your closest friends, even if they were barely an acquaintance before.
Your move can be a fresh start
This is a big belief I’ve had with every big move. I use these ‘milestones’ to literally declutter my life. I get rid of possessions, I cut ties with some areas/people/habits that have been unhealthy for me and I look to the future. I don’t suggest ghosting everybody and moving in the middle of the night. But if you need a change or to get away from bad influences, you can.
It’s not a failure moving back
This was a big worry for myself and others in London about what the next steps were going to be afterwards. For many of us it felt like a step backwards to go home after experiencing life on the other side of the world. Now, I can’t say I moved back to my previous home, but I am back in Australia and happy with my decision because it was best for me. Everyone is different, but if you have gotten what you wanted or needed from your new home, you need a fresh start or have decided it’s not for you, then there is nothing wrong with deciding to move back to somewhere you love.
You’ll be the ‘brave’ one who did it
So many people think and talk about making big moves, but not everyone follows through with it. It feels weird to be told how ‘brave’ I am for making such big moves. I get that it is hard, and scary at times, but you’ll never regret taking a chance on something that you want to do. Worst case scenario, it doesn’t work out. You learn, you move on.
If you’re planning to or have made a big move get in touch! I’d love to hear from you.